Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 11, filing for D

[25yearsmlc]

I don't know what you mean by him "pursuing hard" unless it's intimacy. Or he's just relaxed b/c the big elephant in the room is gone, you won't demand fidelity from him anymore and you'll be pleasant. I am not advocating you being unpleasant, - not at all.

I'm just seeing your situation from such a different viewpoint.

I apologize if I'm projecting any cynicism or anything from my own situation. It's always a balancing act between passing on what we have learned versus projecting.)

But your h can speak and remove any cloudy areas or doubts for you.

If you two were to reconcile and really make it long term-

wouldn't you require a ton of clarity from him?

So, no guessing on your end. Not you checking out or arranging Retrovaille but him. Not you thinking about a temperature check but him coming to you from a position of HIS wanting to try again with remorse and deep reflection and the desire to change...

otherwise this is just you second guessing yourself and reading into HIS cake eating and

and MAYBE letting the damaged ego you admit plays a part of this, try to

another bite at the apple so he chooses you, this time?


I know your will ego will heal - but maybe not until if/when you realize that his infidelity was truly - really - honest to God - NOT about you.


Anyway, I see you thinking out all the requirements you would need from him, while also anticipating doing all the heavy marital lifting, which is contradictory to me.

Am I missing something? Seriously, I'm asking.

We are all rooting for you, Sara.