Any Advice 2

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tread, we had a long talk one night not too long ago about leaving. I told her if she didnt want to be with me to leave. she refused, even when i told her id buy the plane ticket and take her to the airport. She will not leave the kids. On top of that, she cannot afford to live on her own on her pay. She is slowly realizing what all this entails. Its not just texts and calls. real life does intrude on fantasy land from time to time.
I wish she would see the truth about OM. The fact that she only has a window from 5p to 7p to call or facdetime, the fact that the retirement he told her he would have to begin thier wonderful life will be considerably less than he told her because it has to be split with three ex wives, simple things. Like the kids have never met him but hate him anyway and said they will never move to georgia to live with him no matter what...

She has nio idea what a D will look like for her. I do . Due to my occupation, I know a lot of attorneys. I met with one last week and the outlook for her is grim. Kentucky is now a 50/50 state, which kills child support, something she was probably banking on to supplement her income. Basically, i have them two week a month and she does. Due to the split, the children are supported by the parent they are with at the time. I believe the number she threw out last month was $700 a month. On top of that, no alimony will be paid, so she has to figure out how to live on $400 a month, which she wasnt figuring when she plotted this mess. OM was coaching her due to his multiple divorces. He didnt figure Ky law.....I have no plan to file right now, but i wanted to see where we both stood in this. She cannot afford an attorney, and under Ky law i dont have to finance one for her.
So, should she decide that is the route she wants to take, ill make sure it is an informed choice. No blindsides like she did me. I will be upfront and honest about all of it.

Today, however, we went to the grocery sotr, just her and I . As bad as i hate to admiot it, we had a really good time together. we talked, laughed, and joked the whole time. She started talking about the past, and all sorts of family stuff. We have been getting along really well. She is still having a great deal of trouble sleeping, and has severe neck muscle spasms. Guilt, i assume. Not that it matters. I am patiently waiting for the day it all unravels for her. It will. Sweet nothings over the phone cant last forever. JUst do me and keep on keeping on. Kids are excited to go on day trips all this week to local museums and the Zoo. Hopefully the rain holds off and we can hit it all.
I wrote her a long letter early this morning, just to say everything ive wanted to say. I saved it to a zip drive. I mainly wrote it for me. As i wrote, i could almost feel a burden being lifted. I dont know if ill ever give it to her or not, but it was sure theraputic to do.