When dealing with piecing or even prior to that; when the LBH makes certain requests of a WW (total transparency, no contact with OM, etc.) it is smart, or is it healthy to want to know exactly what happened with the W and the OM? Like, how often did they see each other, how often did they engage in sexual activities, etc.? For some reason I am extremely interested in this...but my worry is that it would make it much more difficult to forgive.
I would just caution you about asking for details about their sexual activities (did he do such & such). Once you have that graphic image in your head, it may be very difficult to make it go away. But of course, I am speaking from what I have read from LBS's who reported the experiences.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
