I get that way when I hang up or set boundaries with H. It's unsettling. I always thought that it would lead to more arguiing by setting the boundaries. And that got me on edge. I don't have any advice for you. Sorry I'm still new at all this. Although I am reaching the year mark for myself. I haven't mastered the art of dropping the rope. I hope you have lost the feeling by now and realize you did the right thing. For yourself. And that's what matters right now.