Today I messaged by W brother in-law to see if he wanted to get breakfast tomrw. Our bond has always been very close; and W and I have discussed in the past that I would only maintain contact with her Fam if she was comfortable; W agreed and explained she understood how close we all were and had no problem.
Well; I texted him, and later that day he invited me out to get a beer; I agreed. He was out with his W (my W sister) and their daughter, our first niece.
On my way out, my W texted me; "are you out for the night". I responded with, "I am meeting up with Mr.X (broth in law). She responded with, "oh coool".
Throughout the evening, she began to call me and him multiple times. I ignored them of course; but he answered one of them and told her, basically, she was not going to dictate who he could see as a friend or not. He told me she threw in something about loyalty.
Anyways; fast forward, she called me multiple times. When I got home, I called her to ask if she was OK. Why, I do not know, but I can tell she had been drinking. She began to bombard me with; comments such as, "How can you ignore me for three weeks, but when Mr.X calls you, you go hang out with him and my sister?"
I said to her, we discussed seeing each others family and I would only do it if she was comfortable... She responded with more angry saying; I know I said that, but you ignore me for three weeks, then you think its OK to go hand out with my family. Trust me my sis and my bro in law are going to hear about this tomrw."
As she was yelling; I said I can hear in your voice you are angry, but I am not going to stay on the phone if you are only going to yell at me. We can discuss this tomrw. She began to say something like, "you dont get toooo"; as she said that, I interrupted her with; "I am not going to be yelled at like this, good bye" and hung up.
......my mind is racing....
I want to add a feeling I am currently getting; which is very common in me in the past. Right now I feel like I did something soooo wrong; like it is the end of the world; and how could I have done something so wrong.
What is this feeling? How do I overcome this?
Last edited by Cadet; 11/14/1704:11 AM. Reason: combine posts
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
