Through all of the information gathering I’ve done about this and the subject of my original post I get some comfort in that I understand the WW truly isn’t herself at this time. I’ll get knocked again but she is basically running on a different mind-set brought on by a chemical imbalance in the brain, I think you know what I’m talking about.
In time this wears off it has to and then MAYBE my WW will see a little more clearly, surely someone thinking straight wouldn’t put their own children through the detachment she inflicted on them when being courted by the AP/LO! THIS IS REAL PEOPLE!!!
Whilst she’s still in this state I don’t exist nor do her children to a degree, as so many have mentioned this is no longer my W and will never be the same again. So IF RC happens with me and if the conditions are met why can’t there be a new and improved MR? After all with all the DR‘ing we’re doing and all the improvements we’re achieving it wouldn’t be any worse!!!
Being there for her when she needs it and being her safe place puts me In credit for if and when she realises her new plan a is no longer! Not allowing her this IN MY BOOK just continues to make me look like the plan b she left in the first place.
Again I choose RC because I believe it's the right thing to do.
BUT again in time I might be in a place where I’ve moved on but find this difficult to believe due to the strong feelings I have for keeping my family together and the L I STILL have for my WW.
TIME CHANGES EVERYTHING.
M.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
