exquisite - That sounds like a fabulous plan. Life often throws us unexpected twists but I am confident that you will power through.
I don't know about you, but to me words have power. One thing that I've noticed a lot of divorced people do and I am trying to do myself is to change how I reference the woman with whom I shared so much of my life. Instead of referring to her as "ex-wife", I try to use "my son's mother" - adding some degrees of separation but still recognizing that there is a relationship there. One that I'm not part of. Maybe that mind shift might help you too?
Your Plan B comment leads me to funny story time - sorry for thread-jack but I love telling stories. Many years ago we as a family were putting up a new clothesline pole. It took me a few days to hand dig the hole deep enough (about 4 1/2') - the pole was about 20' tall - and then I set everything up. She who I try not to name was given the role of holding a board on the back side of the hole for the pole to slide down against and the kids who were pre-teen were tasked with sliding a saw-horse along as I lifted the pole stage by stage. All went well for a while until it didn't at which point I carefully set things down and said "OK - plan b" - which I already had set. They all looked at me blankly and said "there's a plan b?" - yes there was. The pole was shifted to vertical, dropped down into the hole with a thud and a splash (high water table here) and I looked at it with the pleasure of a plan coming together then looked around and saw that my entire family had scattered back at least 20 feet as soon as the pole started to move by itself.
So yes - I too always have a Plan B and often more than one.
Hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving. S23 has to work for much of it so we are having a ham on Monday night after he gets off work. No clue what or if "his mother" has any plans with him. I doubt it. D25 who lives in the US often has a "friendsgiving" at the same time. Her H loves the fact that he married a Canadian because he gets extra feasts.
((exquisite))
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
