Kylo's Thread Part 2 Chances Look Slim

[Kylo]

On Tuesday I came home from work early. The W had a Dunkin' Donuts coffee. I cheerily asked her if she used the T-Mobile Tuesday deal for the coffee, and she said she did. Earlier, I had sent her some things she could buy the kids for Christmas with the free $20 to mlbshop.com from the T-Mobile app. She said she bought something different, but got confused and didn't use the coupon. So I said"You paid full-price?" trying not to sound accusatory. I kept a straight face too, not trying to upset her. She ended up upset anyway and blamed me for this mistake that she now had to fix. I didn't say anything, but it set this downward spiral in motion.

I put on my workout shorts with no shirt (my progress in getting in shape bothers and upsets her) which probably pushed her further along. She was changing the bed sheets and brought up me sleeping in the basement again. I again told her that if it bothered her, she could sleep down there. The yelling began, and she said how the week of vacation with me was terrible, and if I didn't sleep in the basement, she would just move out. I tried to argue at first, but then remembered validation. I tried it, but she kept yelling over me, so I then reverted to arguing.

She wanted to sleep with the kids on vacation. I didn't because they keep me up all night, (which they did). She said "Poor baby doesn't get his sleep", then tells me how she doesn't sleep well sleeping next to me.

She said nothing is happening to me, as in no negative consequences to the divorce. I told her she's ruining my life and my kids' life, that's enough "happening". I told her to get a job, and then she can move out all she wants. She tells me she doesn't have a resume, so she can't (she's into her second month of talking about this resume that she can't do by herself). I tell her I'll get it done tonight, these people have already said they want her. Anyway, the argument went on for awhile, excuses on top of excuses.

It becomes clearer to me now that some of her dumb excuses are because she won't state the real reason she is doing anything. Another late discovery that does little to help me now.

I tell her I will sleep in the basement if she agrees to let me stay in the house. We had basically come to this agreement previously, but in the argument she starts backsliding. I know her word is worthless, but it was better than nothing.

I know this was a total DB failure, but I have lost almost all respect for her. She has contradicted herself on so many things, it just makes me want to puke. My patience is gone which makes me a failure at DB. At least some of the DB principals will help me minimize the damage from the D. She absolutely can't stand her mother, but is going to end up just like her.