Mark - For me, I have no objection with your confidence that your W will want to return. I feel that some amount of hope in that outcome is a requirement to truly drive us to be better, at least at the outset of our situations.
What I disagree with is some of the terminology you use. Maybe it's being pedantic, Im not sure. But to me, the thought of "waiting" sounds like you are giving her the power over your life and your choices. As if there is nothing for you to do but sit and be patient for the day when your W approaches you about reconciling. For me, I assumed that one day my XW would come back asking to reconcile, but for me, I wasnt going to put my life on hold until that day came. Someday she might, but by now, it doesnt really matter.
Im NOT saying that the day for you to go out and start dating someone else is today. What I am saying is that you might want to consider a more proactive wording/thought process.
The other reason that I dont like the word 'waiting' is that it makes it sound like if she just gets through this limerence process, that she will come back to you and everything will be better. What I have anecdotally seen from some on this board is that just because the relationship with the AP ends, doesnt necessarily mean that the WS will return home. Theres been many instances of AP2, AP3 or just nobody. And on top of that, theres several reports Ive read where the WS returns and then theres another A months or years down the road.
My point is that your key focus right now shouldnt be on the ending of the affair, but on your own personal growth. Using the term 'waiting' makes it seem like you are done reflecting and growing and that the remaining burden is on W.
