Sorry, let me be clear, I am not questioning my faith, not at all! I am not kicking myself about religion--I know where I stand (currently) and I am fine with it. What I am saying is that I do not agree with the presenters in Retrouvaille that couples need to go to church together and pray together to save their M. Not at all! In fact, being told that left a sour taste in my mouth about the program in general. I did not complete the post session because of it. I know many happy and strong couples that are not Christians. I also have a lot of diversity in my friends/neighbors/coworkers, and I do not think the religious folks have a stronger moral compass. Some of my most honest, loyal and generous friends are the most non-religious.
I am very troubled when religious groups offer aid to vulnerable populations in exchange for indoctrination. I actually see that type if recruitment as a gross abuse of power. It reminds me of a service project I participated in for undergrad and we helped out serving food to the homeless at a church: the meal came with more than food and the church used that time to evangelize and required worship in exchange for the meal. So I am not here to have a debate about that, but I think that people should be of their own free will and choose to participate in religion or not. I can say with 100% certainty that all the prayer in the world is not what is going to save my M.
Thanks for sharing tho. I am glad my sitch is helpful to someone. I wish I could give people more hope about piecing after their H leaves them for their friend for almost a year, but I just can't. Maybe one day. We will see :-)
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
