I can't remember what DR says on this, but my 2 cents - I would want complete and full transparency and all details. I would require her to answer all of my questions to my satisfaction. If she won't be willing to do that, I walk. Simple.
Just like you, I am early in my sitch so recon is not even on my radar of possibility. But, it's good to think about this as you progress along on your own personal goals and grow and improve. Recognize what you will need.
If you want to get a glimpse of what this might look like, go read up on some piecing threads - Stormchaser and Bluwave I would recommend.
