What to Do? 4

[chris19]

M - understood; and I have not done anything since. W did text me today about some financial stuff; I kept it short and to the point.

Now; I do have some questions to try and get some perspective from both sandi as a WW, as well as other LBS's with WW's. Regardless of whether my sitch works out or not I wanted some insight. It is hard to formulate my exact question; so let me just spew a little.

When dealing with piecing or even prior to that; when the LBH makes certain requests of a WW (total transparency, no contact with OM, etc.) it is smart, or is it healthy to want to know exactly what happened with the W and the OM? Like, how often did they see each other, how often did they engage in sexual activities, etc.? For some reason I am extremely interested in this...but my worry is that it would make it much more difficult to forgive.

My goal is to forgive; but I am afraid this might lead to not forgiving...but on the other-hand...would I feel all this resentment from not knowing?

Also, along with these comments; b/c we are living separately right now; and if we were to reconcile, I would be moving into the house she purchased...Should I ask W if the OM has been in the house, even slept-ed in the bed, or had relations in that house? I am deathly afraid of this answer, because again...I want to forgive...but this would make it so much harder.

How do I approach all of this...