But I just don't see a reason to pursue this woman, even if I was encouraged to do so by this board or counselors.
I don't know about your C, but I don't know anyone here who advocates pursuit. The whole philosophy here is "work on you. Be the best you you can be. Do the best by your children that you can. Detach. If your WAS comes back, and if you still want them, then great. If not, then you're still an awesome person who is in a position to live a better life then they were before." Pursuit is seen as an obstacle to any of that.
I respect that mark is being true to himself. Unlike most of us when we were trying to fix our Ms, he is at least being consistent. I admire the willpower is must take to stay the course.
