Here the thing that I discovered about DB'ING. It's about saving yourself more than your MR. Fight or fold isn't really a good assessment. Because the variable is that the WS is having a good time messing around, while you sit back and wait for them to eventually see the error of their way or at least see you as the better choice. That is commendable. But this person comes back to you a completely different human being.
There is no way that a woman or man could habe sexual experiences with one OP let alone several and still be that same person that your waiting for. I didn't completely understand why the LBS would turn down the WS who wanted RC. But I can completely see why now. It's more than just folding.
You just realize that this goes against your values. And in some ways you finding that you were plan B. Based on the fact that one reason they may be returning is because things didn't work out with OP.
The philosophy you have makes sense. But don't be surprised when you wake up one day realizing that your W isn't worth fighting for based on her behavior and things she has done. We all have a breaking point. And these WS keep crossing that line. Which eventually they may or may not regret at some point. My philosophy is to look out for myself at this point. If she comes crawling back one day, then we'll deal with the sitch then. But I just don't see a reason to pursue this woman, even if I was encouraged to do so by this board or counselors.
