I’m sorry if I’ve offended anybody on these boards especially you it’s not my intention. I apologise.
Sandi what I meant about you being the perfect example was that of a WW who has RC her MR sorry for any confusion. You’re well respected around here and I had hoped to use your example to outline that RC is indeed a viable solution.
All is well here, and thanks for clarifying for me. I don't mind answering questions about my situation. However, LBH's here cannot really use my H as a pattern to reconcile with a WW. Let me explain why. He was not the one coming to the board. I was. He was not the one getting the tools. See what I mean?
Had I not been coming to the board, I don't know if we would have made it. I'd like to think I would have eventually done the right thing, but then.....I never would have dreamed I would be involved with an OM, either. Although most everything about DB is for the one who wants to save the M....I was given enough information on how affairs work, and that helped me in deciding to do the right thing.
There have been success stories over the years that are no longer posted. And most people are not going to hang around, once their M has R. But here's the thing, there are some wise divorced people here. Don't discredit their advice, just b/c their WW was a fool. Even DB can't promise to save every M.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
