Rebuilding my life #2

[25yearsmlc]

[quote=lcause]I had plans for tonight and XW just suddenly asked if I could watch the kids in half an hour as she has a doctor's appointment.


I get that it was last minute, but she's the mother of your children and evidently she was pretty sick.

I told her no because I have plans and asked that did she really got the info about it an hour prior to the appointment? Apparently yes.

indeed


Don't know if I was being a scumbag as I could have probably made time for it but that would have prevented me from going to GAL today.


Okay I have a question not intended to make you defensive.

But what could have been more important for her, than the need for a sudden doctor appointment?

Is it just that you did not believe her? I mean, if so, I can understand saying no b/c you just didn't buy her reason.

But if it's b/c you really wanted to do something else and yet you believed her, then I'd remind you it's not all about your being her h, but also that she is the mother of your children. And setting an example to your kids.

This^^ is not doormat behavior, just loyal - We give up things we want to do when someone is very sick, or afraid, or needs to be cared for...even when it's super super inconvenient for us.

We show up.

So maybe it's

something to look at. ??