Limerence and My Situation 5

[25yearsmlc]

...why is it that people in US don't tend to file for the divorce straight away when they move in with OMs or say that a separation is indefinite? If they truly mean it, why not divorce then?

first, they are not sure and thank God they don't always wait that long before separating or no one would ever reconcile

second, the states vary in how long they require you to be separated before you can file for divorce

but most importantly I think, it's b/c people separate sometimes to get the attention of the spouse (wake them up)

or to try out the single life,

or to escape a homelife they need space from.

I do not see an advantage to quick filing.

In California, 1/3 of the divorces filed are never completed. Chances are a lot of those are couples who reconciled

but there is no legal announcement of such.