Are you questioning your own faith and whether a lack of religion has played a role in where you are with your marriage?
Full disclosure, I'm an agnostic. However, I don't believe religion has anything to do with it. I would be in a relationship with an atheist or a theist as long as they did not pressure me to share their beliefs (my H is an atheist who despises religion but is currently messing around with a born again, go figure on both their parts--his attacks on religion were a very prominent part of his once active FB profile and therefore it isn't a question of her not knowing).
I think with anything you have to take the information in and use the parts that are helpful to you. It's great that a program like that exists. It is unfortunate that both that and Divorce Care have a religious bend. I probably will never attend either because of that.
In a very different place from you but can understand your struggles. I recently talked to an old friend who went through his own MLC. He never left home. He is back to his old self and is connected to his work and his children again. But, he has no sense of connection to his wife. I think it will come in time.
This may not make you feel great, but your struggles have been very helpful to me. I feel much better about the loss of my marriage knowing that even if he did "snap out of it" and come back, that I would still be questioning us for a long time. Given his treatment of me to date, all of this makes it easier to let go and focus on living my own life.
Don't kick yourself about the religion. You don't need it to be successful. Listen to your own moral compass and let that steer you through this difficult time.
