Just some morning journaling before I get ready for work:
I find if interesting that my W has put her own boundaries in place. For example.
- Yesterday she cam over to the house. The garage door was open but instead of just letting herself in through the garage door she goes to the front door and knocks. we are advised to stay out of their heads, of course. However - here I go - I think she's trying in her way, to show respect for the boundaries she believes you have or should have.
In truth, it would bother a lot of LBS's to have the WW just stroll in, so I'd see it as something that makes your life easier.
- While at the house she had to go to the bathroom. She went to the spare bathroom and shut door so I guess I wouldn't see her. While together the door was always open. don't know, can't decode. But it's better than the alternative, isn't it? And it reminds HER that she's not living there. it's not "her" home now.
- Our youngest D got sick yesterday and is staying home today. Last week my oldest got sick and stayed home from work. My W made it a point this time to ensure that she was the one to stay home. I got the feeling she wanted to make sure she was pulling her own weight.
Well, thank God. The alternative to that^^ is mostly lousy.
Any way my oldest has pictures today at school, she is in 3rd grade and has really started to be concerned about what she wears. She didn't have any dresses and she really wanted to wear one for picture day. So guess who took her shopping last night after work for a dress???? You guess it me! Normally that would have fell to my W but it was really fun and afterwards we went and got yogert.
I guess I better get used to as this appears to be my new norm! W enforcing her own boundaries and taking my D dress shopping! What is going on !!!!!
CLAP CLAP CLAP!!
RC seems so impossible at this point in time. Not because we fight or argue, that has not happened since she moved out. She is just very business like with really having no emotion. It seems like she is a pro at this arrangement and is totally settled with it.
Come on, you know better.
That's like saying Facebook is an autobiographical documentary, (and not just a highlight reel for the "resume of life for a depressed person in crisis.)
Plus, you'd probably say the same thing if there were fights and yelling matches going on or escalating. ("it's looking hopeless").
Her calming down and looking at the reality she's creating, is also the way for things she needs to work out, to surface. Make no assumptions.
Get out of her head. The reality is that if/when she wants things to work out,
you won't have to mind read. The clarity and commitment from her would be there.
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