My wife is GAL and detaching as well. Does GAL and detaching eork if both partners do them? It seems like it would just make us more like strangers living in the same house...
The situation right now is your W is so done with you and the M that just seeing you and hearing you repulses her. GAL and detaching does two things- 1) it gives her the time and space away from you that she needs to get over being angry and resentful and hopefully (eventually) to start remembering that maybe the M wasn't so bad after all; and 2) it gives you the times and space away from her that you need to start healing, finding yourself and become more independent. GAL and detaching doesn't save the M in and of itself, it paves the way to you becoming the "spouse only a fool would leave" which she may find attractive down the road.
When I read comments like this I sense some impatience, it's like you're really saying "it's not working, should I try to pursue instead?" NO, DO NOT PURSUE. You have a very long road ahead, you need more patience then you've probably ever needed for anything else in your life.
