You mention being more loving and others detaching with anger. But it all depends on the sitch. I tried detaching with love, but my W took that as an opportunity to take advantage. So yes I was angry and have calmed down over time. But I ain't putting up with nonsense all in the name of trying to R. No woman would respect a man for doing that.
My W has calmed down the obvious trifiling behavior since I went off on her. And pretty much stopped trying to speak with her outside of S13. So when we speak, I keep it cordial. But that will only continue as long as she is peaceful. If I find she doing something else disrespectful, then I will handle it accordingly. Being peaceful when someone has displayed physical violence against you is not worthy of loving responses.
