Joe I think that happens as most people don't spend time really looking at the guidance on detachment. Peanut's short detachment list talks about the importance of detaching lovingly. That does add to making the LBS more attractive. So I agree with what you have said.
But I have also read sitch's here where there was massive amounts of disrespect towards the LBS, in which case the advice would change to become indifferent and truly not care. I think if you think about Tx's sitch, I didn't read it as him being cold to his W. he just stopped giving a f*uck and lived his life and didn't care about recon. IMHO that mental strength is not what DB is about.
