Limerence and My Situation 4

[joejoe1]

This conversation is great. The read is great. I think every approach has to be a little different for Ebert WAS. We as LBS have to examine our Sitch and make adjustments. There is no one way for every Sitch.

I also think if your detachment is coming off as cold, it would lead any person to want to move on. If you stay angry at at a WAS, why would they want to reconcile.

I have to update my Sitch on my thread, but I have seen that my wife interacts with me more, when I take a positive approach and I'm open. From reading a lot of threads on here, I think a lot of LBSs are approaching their WAS with anger. They use the DB techniques as ways to teach a lesson.

I tried using TXHubby Tech and I didn't like the outcome. I was could toward my W and that's why our M became toxic. So I refined my Tech. I don't pursue her, but I very cordial and open. Will it being her back, maybe. I'm very positive and optimistic, I don't bring up the M or R, she does.

I really feel that positive interaction brings on positive response.

Satistics are good they give us hope, but they are not end all be all. These Sitch are too dynamic and takes a lot of hard work and constant reevaluation.

We are humans and we are drawn to sin, but we are also drawn to the light. Sometimes it takes time to see the light. It a person was giving 80% of what you wanted and needed and another person gives you 20% it's until that 80 is gone until that 20 becomes a problem. So if the LBS can make up that 20 over time and it will take time then the WAS IMO will realize it, but LBS has to have some crack in the door for the WAS to come back in, if R is what they want.