Finding my way out of the dark - Part 4

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I've done this as well and I think it's not really all that good, even though sometimes I'd REALLY want to know what the WAS is thinking. Especially with the contact and how amicable she is towards me, how she laughs etc. It just seems odd to me because why couldn't we try to work on it then?

I'd say the difference is that with mind reading you obsess about it and invent your own outcomes (e.g. how I'd like to think why she is so friendly towards me after all this), with empathy you are genuinely feeling bad for her (e.g. just like you said there, that you're sorry she had to go through it and felt she had to do this).