Finding my way out of the dark - Part 4

[Holding]

Thanks Doodler and JoeJoe. I am trying to learn from what I've done wrong - it's tempting to beat myself up over it (that's the old me), but I know that's not productive.

Last night I had another session with my IC. I realized I've seen her 17 times since the beginning of May. Wow.

Anyway, I know it's her job to empathize with me, but her jaw dropped at least twice as I told her about all the craziness I've dealt with in the last week. I asked her about the issue of "fabrication" that Acc brought up. She agreed that I do need to make sure I'm not telling myself stories about things instead of examining what's really happening. But she did say there were several examples of STBXW blatantly trying to bully me and harass me. She said she's proud of me for not giving in to STBXW.

Last night STBXW was working on her computer, doing her own household inventory I think, and she put on some Christian music. I'm thinking "really?" I mean, I guess she needs her own comfort through this whole process, and everyone wants to see themselves as the "right" party.

It makes me think about her side of things. I know we mostly think of things from the POV of the LBS (with the exception of Sandi's comments). It's dangerous to let your mind wander into that dark place where the WAS lives. There's nothing but pain there. But it's hard not to wonder what she's going through. I do feel sorry that she's been hurt so much that she feels she needs to do this.

What's the difference between mind reading and empathy?