MLC or WAS... either way, I'm here

[peacetoday]

Hi

The MLCer says a lot of things
they say believe none of what you hear and half of what you see
The "control" issue seems to come up in every story you read about MLC
they feel controlled-Maybe some of us(myself included can look at this issue and resolve it in ourselves)but I don't not think that is the reason they leave

My xh OW (now XW) was way more controlling than I ever was
she would not let him talk to his old friends ..I know this because his best friend told me she texted him telling him to leave XH alone-
I guess best friend was trying to help XH get sober again-
he said OW was nuts-his words-

They usually affair down and pick need and controlling, or drug addicted partners
mine also followed this

I have little emotion regarding XH new divorce-It doesn't matter to me
If he can find help for himself and return to be available for his children, that would be awesome
if not --I wish him the best and I have no need for any further connection to him
I said nothing about this to the kids-they really have no R to him and don't need to know or get their hopes up
After watching his choices--I really have little faith in my X to follow through anyway

I know it is hard and I hear your pain--I understand what it feels like to go through it

You are doing all the right things
once you get past the emotions and grief,,you will find yourself new and again
make a new life and have another R if you choose-
I see it over and over again

Take care of yourself
try to make a new friend and have one fun night-like a movie or dinner
you will get to the other sidemen day at a. time