Limerence and My Situation 4

[Rose888]

Mark, we have read your posts.

I'm not convinced that your actual exchanges deviate from DB on the outside. It's the internal processing and spin that goes against DB and makes it difficult for you to detach.

For example, saying how the OM must feel about your wife talking to you and noticing that she didn't respond to his text and wondering what that meant. Talking about wanting to be her "safe space." Didn't you at one time tell her that you would always be there for her? Post separation?

And then you saw that she'd put the OM's trophies somewhere and flipped out, right? And every time she shows any interest, you come here and ask if it's time to start pursuing and being less distant.

Your current strategy is messing with your head.

I'm not saying to be a jerk or to be cold. But stop pursuing her in your mind.

What if you thought of her as a good friend from college, maybe an ex-girlfriend, who is now in a relationship with someone else. Think of your wife like that.