Either though things are not 100% back to normal for me.. i.e. her living back in our marital home - I would say that I am probably one of the most recent moderate success stories on these boards.
We currently see each other twice a week, her wedding ring is back on and when we do have our 'date days' we sleep in the same bed that night, and speak and text regularly throughout the week - with a rough idea of December before we work towards her coming 'home' - (she is at her parents). We both are taking our time and making sure it is the right thing for us both.
When this happened in March I was an absolute wreck.
After numerous 2x4's on here in June I decided I was going to live for me and only me. As far as I was concerned she was gone.
Since then, I threw myself into work and GAL without any hope that things would work out or doing the things simply to woo her back.
On the rare occasions our paths did cross the atmosphere wasn't the same. No desperation, no panic, no ulterior motive - just me being me. It was natural; and other people (not just her), commented on how less 'intense' time with me had become and that they/she felt more at ease.
After hearing these positive comments, I didn't get excited and start hoping for recon. I pretended the previous day didn't have any meaning and just lived for the day. This kept me from 'reading into things' and kept me in the present moment.
Roughly, 7 weeks ago, I felt the tide turning. At the beginning she left because she wasn't happy with me. I was draining her of her emotional energy. Now.. she was viewing me as a happy/positive person to be around. I started to receive calls telling me that she had a bad week at work, and was I available at the weekend she we can 'chill out' together. Her perception of me as an emotional leech had changed.
I was now someone to go to relax with or share a few laughs with. Not only her but friends and work colleagues felt the change as well. Last week she came to my parents?! and this weekend I slept at her parents. point being, she is letting other people know things are going positively.
I have never chased, begged, or even thought about her coming back. It was and still is all about me.
I am very sceptical.. very. I remember saying in May this board was garbage and this sort of advise didn't work. Now, I can honestly say hand on heart - without the advise I received off this board I would be here today.
