Rebuilding my life #2

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For example I have never even raised my voice to my XW so we never had any serious conflicts (which was probably bad because fighting per se is not a bad thing if it seeks to find solutions for the conflicts). Any ideas?

Yeah. I think you should do a 180 on that one and start yelling at every opportunity. I promise you that she will notice your changes right away

I agree with your take on the next R. If that is good and fulfilling, they never look back. No matter what they left behind.

In some cases, the grass probably IS greener. But I also believe that if the WAS didn't have the tools to work on the issues in their previous M, they'll most likely run into the same problems again some day. But that could easily be many many years down the line. And we won't be around by then. We will have moved on.

I don't really believe that any WAS comes running back the moment they fear that the LBS have moved on. I think that is just a myth.