Just continue to play Mr. Cool Guy. You do not want to rush back into something with her too quickly. Think of what you want if there is a reconciliation.
Here are a few examples:
She agrees to transparency........ You don't warn her or tell her when you will check to see if she is working to earn back your trust. Then some night when she's sleeping or she lays her phone out while she's doing something else.... look at her phone, or some other method. Not every night, but random times. (If she knows in advance, she could delete anything she didn't want you to see). If she is not being honest, it will eventually show up in phone activity, or something else.
She should agree to No secret passwords, deleted messages, etc. No leaving the room or closing doors to talk on the phone, skype, etc.
She should agree to No secret friendships. No friendships with men that exclude the H.
She has to end all manner of contact with OM. Never to contact him again.
Attend MC about the sex problem, and any other issue.
Sleep in the same bed.
If she has been in a sexual affair, you may consider telling her you want her tested for STD.
I'm speaking as a former WW, and these are things that will help her to stay on track.....especially in the early weeks of piecing the M back together. She probably won't be happy about some of them, but if she balks.....you might reconsider how much or how serious she is about doing whatever is necessary to repair the damage done to the M.
Take it slowly. You can respond to some of her texts, as long as she is showing the humble side you saw earlier. However, if she starts that childish stuff again, stop responding. Be cool, calm, and collected, Let her pursue you.
Even if she agrees to your terms, you may want to give her another couple of days to think on it. You don't want to go back to her, only to discover she isn't serious about working on the M.
