Been trying to reestablish family dinner at least once a week on Sundays. Invited WW. Initially she said "no I have a ton of work to do". Then Sunday afternoon WW asked if I wanted to meet at a local brewery for a beer and games.
Had a relatively nice time though she doesn't seem or look happy.
Highlights from the conversation:
WW: You look thin WW: You should take your reading glasses out of the front of shirt WW: The blue sheets you bought don't really match anything in our room
Me: You look sad WW: I've been happier
I was trying to get her to talk in terms of her interests:
Me: I know you like impressionist, what are some of other favorite styles of art WW: Abstract Me: Oh who are some abstract artists that you like WW: I don't know Me: Kadinsky? Was he abstract. How about Peter Max, I remember you had a Peter Max watch WW: Can you stop asking me about what art I like
Asked WW today about the contents of a smudging package we received.
WW: Can you just leave it Me: What do you mean just leave it? WW: I'll do it
I then went Dale Carnegie Principle #9 "Be sympathetic with the other persons ideas and desires" on her.
WW: Oh...it's going to get rid of the negative energy. Hopefully
GAL activities: Guitar class every Saturday, Lunch with Mom after guitar class, Softball Sunday mornings, Going to start CODA next week, running at least 3x a week, bought a pull-up bar so I'm doing daily pull-ups, study for certification(try and do it at a local Starbucks to get out in public), Incorporating "How to Win Friends & Influence People" in my daily interactions, and spending time with my daughters as much as teenagers will allow.
Detachment seems to be getting easier. Some days I want reconciliation and some days I wonder do I really want to spend the rest of my life looking over my shoulder?
