Painful, I have no evidence of any 3 year mark, I was just referring to the timeline of limerence (if you read all of Parkema's/Mark's posts you'll know why). Limerence usually lasts a maximum of 36 months.
I know - that's who I meant as 1 coach who talks about limerence (i don't think we're allowed to mention names). He does talk about 36 months max even though I heard 48 mos in one of his podcasts. That's the max though, and I'm sure Mark as well as the rest of us hope for a much shorter timeline. I'm about 8 mos into S and the max timeline is definitely daunting.
Me47 W38 D11 M 12yrs 1st BD 3/16 2nd BD 12/16 Confirm PA 1/17 (going on for at least 1 yr, maybe longer) Separated 2/17 D No talk