Tread, unless you were a pompous ass who mocked people whose spouses cheated on them, no one worth the time of day is going to be laughing at you because of your wife's behavior.

Your wife is behaving horribly, but her behavior is not a reflection on you, and it's not something you can control.

You're separated, so it's not as if people think you are being tricked.

The attitude you need to channel is "Frankly, I don't give a damn."

Go be the best Tread you can be. Until she shows signs of wanting to come back, her behavior is nothing to do with you.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16