Haha AS, no I am not stalking anyone. That's just a sideeffect that comes from you writing memorable posts.
As for your brothers sitch, I'm sorry for him, but yeah, some guys (probably girls too) suffer extremely hard, and for ages. A friend (and co-worker) of mine actually wrote "goodbye notes" for his kids when he was BD'ed some 5 years ago. Thankfully he never followed through.
M:46 WXW:40 T:20 M:13 D3,D8,D10 BD:11/12/16 D:12/14/16 OM confirmed 01/20/17