You are making decisions based upon something that didn't even happen. Then you are upset that it is your W's fault if you have to quit. But nothing even has happened as far as you know.
The thing is, do what you want! Stop thinking about her and do whatever it is you want! Kaizen's point is to do what will bring you closer to your goal will benefit you.
But you have freedom to do whatever you choose. Stay in the job or leave. Go around calling everyone letting them know what happened between you and your W. All your choices. I think you want someone to say "yes, I agree with you exposing your W" That may not happen, but you are free to do what you want. But know you can't blame the outcome on anyone else but yourself.
I could right now choose not to be friendly with my ex and his OWW wife. I could not talk to either of them if I didn't want to. I chose to do it because it makes life that much better for my D10. I could choose to sit at the other side of the football field at her games. To turn away when they speak to me. My choices are mine, and while sometimes they aren't easy for me, it's how I want to live for my daughter. But I do indeed have a choice.
