Mark, I have read every single post in your thread over the last 24 hours. I'm not an expert around here, just a stalker but I want you to know that I'm pulling for you man. Not necessarily your marriage but for you!
I'd also say that I'm a fellow nice guy working on fixing myself in a similar but different situation. I realize that the there are a lot of parallels to be drawn between DB'ing and fixing the nice guy problems that we were taught were the right way to be a "proper man". I see 180's GAL'ing especially as a way to be regardless if I end up divorced or reconciling. Basically what I'm sharing is the understanding of the need for this to be a permanent change, not a way to win her back. I think you are there too but if not hopefully a gentle reminder will help you get there.
