Thanks sandy the good news is that she ended up paying for half of what we were discussing with the kids.
We do not have a separation agreement and just arranged our financial piece between the both of us when she moved out. If/when this goes to D will what I am paying now have any impact on a D settlement? Will a judge look at our current arrangement and say since you are already paying it it should continue.
Not sure what state you live in, or how much more you make than she does.
In general, a court does not like seeing one party have a substantial downturn in their lifestyle while the other does not.
in my case, and what my L will argue
is that my h is an MD with a pristine resume, whereas I've got an 18 year gap in my resume, while I raised our kids and moved 9 times for h's career.
And I'm not licensed in this state, so I'd have to move to a place we lived 18 years ago, to use my professional degree and find work.
Where I filed, The court thinks after a long m this^^^ should not mean I live in a crappy place while my h lives in almost the same lifestyle we had while married.
Other states look for "Equitable divisions" and all states want the kids to be safe and to minimize the changes in their lives/life styles.
The courts usually don't want to see a big disparity in lifestyles for some time.
Ultimately, yes the higher earner will have more, b/c they earn more. But That's later. And assumes the lower earning spouse does not remarry.
See a lawyer to discuss possible financial implications and no matter how much you like the first L, (if you do), please interview another one.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
