You are absolutely free to do this. Just like you are absolutely free to bring public shame to your W. Have at it.
But like Ginger said, I doubt it will make you feel better in the long run.
Ultimately, the question you need to ask yourself is: "Does doing X bring me closer to meeting my goals?"
The responses I have read from Rose and Ginger and the slant that I have given you are all assuming that your goals are focused around being in a healthy relationship in the future and in being a good role model for your son and in treating your W with the respect you would want from her.
If those ARENT your goals, then maybe doing the kinds of things youve been talking about will get you closer to them.
Originally Posted By: Tread
A city full of men and W decided to pursue this guy. This guy isn't even a stud. Just an overweight guy who is cool. Its like she wants to push the limits to see if I will turn back into that early 20 something. Am I to treat this woman as if I would an enemy, because what the feeling is at this point. And I know her new BFF is pushing for this behavior. The old one moves and she finds a replacement.
When you are detached, you will treat her just like a coworker that you kind of know. Friendly and polite, but not going out of your way one way or another to impact their life. What she is doing is about HER and not you. Just like what you should be focusing on is YOU and not her.
