Chris, I understand your feelings on Divorce Care. It does get VERY religious at times, especially with the focus on scripture quotes (maybe that's the lax Catholic in me). I've thought about dropping too.
My favorite part of the group is when we have an open discussion following the video, and we all open up a little about out sitches and feelings. I wish the group had more of that, but it seems like that's the part that gets cut when we're running short on time.
Please share if you manage to find something you like more.
interesting. (Yes I'm Catholic, too).
I got turned off when the "sanctity of marriage" was stressed for the first 10 minutes of one video, as if I didn't already feel like crap about the divorce. Yeah, I get it. Thanks for pointing out my epic fail. But I brought it up and someone else's insight helped me "reframe it" (that's my new motto about - everything).
However their analogies often help - I like the "tornado tore your home apart, so you need tools," etc It's fitting.
For me, it's the group's bonding and social activities and friendships that have come out of it that makes such a difference. And the things I've learned about how to emotionally get through the settlement conference and legal costs, etc.
I LIKE the men in my group - but it is platonic. There is trust there. (And I suspect they'll be a great conduit to meeting OM's when I do want to date ).
What if you arrange to meet up somewhere later that night? Or some activity so there's not too much social pressure or weird expectations (make sure it's a group thing so no one gets the wrong idea).
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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