Thanks S...I don't think we are too far off financially, maybe $100 here or there. I think it is the male instinct to want to take care of his family and it is a hard thing to shift your thinking even in these situations.
I don't think I have been too overly nice to her through this process and I always think about being a NG when I approach these situations. When she moved out I did ask her to give me the checkbook to our joint account, I did have her name removed from it as well since I am the primary and I also asked her to give me our joint family credit card. My name is on it not hers. I didn't do this until she got her checks re-directed to be auto-deposited into her own checking account. I don't think those actions are not NG worthy .
Since then though she come to me a couple of times wanting money to help her with groceries because she went over budget. In one instance she did ask me for the credit card and I told her "no". I did go out and get her some stuff primarily because she had the kids for the week but that was it. She also offered to pay me back.
Maybe she is Wayward with a conscience? When she came to me for money she broke down, started crying and told me it was hard for her to ask. I assumed it was due to her pride.
Anyway....I am still not pursuing and I never ask her any questions about herself. How she is doing? Where has she been? What is going on? How do you feel? Everything is high level talk about some random BS, the kids or money. I won't break ranks but am getting kind of tired of it.
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