WAWWAW? Woul? Would Love Opinions. Thanks! Part 7

[sandi2]

I think my W actually enjoys having our children part time. In her mind this is the perfect set up. She can do whatever she wants and doesn't have to answer to anyone. I

This is another unattractive characteristic of a wayward. She may put up a fight to have full custody, but she doesn't want them full time. That would impose on her time too much.

This is another difference I see in the WAW and the WW. The emotional disconnect the wayward has toward her parents, old friends, and even her children.

I guess her lack of cash is not waking her up...........

Here's the thing. She's going to have her "Poor Me" pity parties, first. She'll try it in her H to see how much she can get out of him (and she may go to great lengths.....like giving his sex). She will try to get money from her parents (calling it "loans", or promising to pay it back).

My W just came back and said she could pay for a portion of what we were talking about. Since our finances are separated I have no idea how much money she has or doesn't have. So if we split things 50/50 and she says she can't pay for something. I guess at that point it is my decision if I want to pay for it 100% depending on how bad I want my D's to go or have it or participate in it?

Well. all the fathers of the year may disagree with me, but this is the reality of divorce. The kids don't get as much as they would before the D. I haven't read the other replies, but I wouldn't be surprised if someone doesn't say, "Your child should not be punished b/c of the D, or b/c of her mother". Well, that lays a big guilt trip on Dad, doesn't it? I don't go along with that type of guilt advice about the kids.

Look, her telling you she can pay a only a portion is completely unacceptable. If you cover her part this time.....you will be covering her part in everything that comes along. So, bite the bullet and tell her it looks as if D won't be able to go. Then be ready for WW to pull the guilt card and use on you. Don't fall for it. It's the nature of the beast.

This is divorce! It would be better for your daughter to miss out on this event, and maybe her mother will put more effort into paying her part of the next event. But, WW won't do it, as long as she can play the H.