He has diagnosed himself as autistic (he's NOT) and asked me to attend counseling with him.
You know, don't dismiss the idea too quickly. It's possible to be very mildly on the spectrum (what was referred to in the past as Asperger's) and still have it affect your life.
My oldest son has mild Asperger's and wasn't diagnosed until college. He's very extroverted and so not what you would typically picture as someone on the spectrum. But he misses social clues, talks too loud/ too long/ too obsessively, has severe anxiety, and his work options are limited by his social skills (he should have become a computer programmer where he could blend right in, but he was never that interested).
Anyway - my point is, mild Asperger's can be trickier to diagnose than you think, so I would at least take a look at it and consider a counseling appointment with him, just to hear what his therapist has to say about it.
He never had trouble making friends the first ten years we were married. He has held great jobs and risen high in a career that requires him to be savvy to social cues. He has no particular quirks or tics. He *was* raised in a high stress household. His father and grandmother both suffer from anxiety and alcohol dependency and I believe Mr. F does too. He is conflict avoidant and because of that is a tremendous liar and manipulator.
I see no value to attending counseling with him after the way he has treated me.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
