Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 11, filing for D

[PsySara]

Sky,
There will be HUGE questions from his family which I have made it clear I am going to be honest. He cares a LOT about how people perceive him. I am sorely tempted to text the nurse at his job, the one he has been snap chatting, and let her know what she's in for. My guess is he is filling her full of nonsense about how his marriage is failing and we've "grown apart" blah blah blah. I want to let her know that he is just chasing a cliched fantasy. But before you say it, I know, detach.

25,
Your story is cautionary to the other DB'ers, even if they come back home that does not mean happily ever after. This is especially true if the WS does not do "the work" and get to the root of their waywardness. I think DB attracts folks who are used to putting in work to get the desired results. Whereas our spouses simply think things should just fall in their laps. The Whys, oh my the Whys. I think even if the WS got to the root of their whys we still would not be satisfied because there is no acceptable "why" to do such a hideous thing to one's family. It would still appear shallow and superficial. I would take a bullet rather than let my children experience the pain of abandonment and uncertainty. Meanwhile our Wayward is more than happy to let them go through this awfulness so they can get their "fix."


My lawyer is awesome, she sent a copy of the petition to me and I just need to come by her office and go over the particulars. She is very efficient and I think this will save me unnecessary costs in the long run. I stayed home from work today (extremely rare occurrence) with a migraine and slept until 2:30! I think it was long overdue as I've been perpetually sleep deprived for about 2 years.

2 years.

Yup, 2 years ago my WH was sleeping with a 21 year old nurse and telling her he wanted to make her his wife. Meanwhile he called me each evening and asked about the kids and my pregnancy. The gall still takes my breath away. On Oct 4, 2015 was my first d-day but not my last. Now WH is chatting up 20-somethings nurses and appearing as if he could not give one iota of care that he will be present for 50% of his kid's lives. That he has committed a capitol offense in our religion and will answer for it in this life or the next.