Thanks Mark for the advice again
Guess I need a tailored version for my domestic setup whereby I GAL and mentally detach whilst remaining in this loving relationship (cake eating or not) in the house. If she is stil being devious I'm prepared to wait for the denouement. As long as my mental health keeps on an even keel I think.I can keep this going

Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains