Mellow JDub is the way to be. I am: - Continuing to be mellow, not get rattled by kids/schedules going awry - Not responding to her texts right away, not always being available by phone when she calls - Doing slightly more around the kitchen - Finding my own things to do with friends, and she can join me or not...I don't press - Enjoying our couple friends without worrying about the small stuff...such as: why isn't she sitting next to me? What should I read into that? - Not initiating any talk about R at all.
W is now: - Reaching out for my hand to hold it in the mornings/evenings, - Buying new decor for our home, very interested in my input - Sending me very nice texts after we do new things together like a new fitness routine - Light kissing - Wanting to talk about R and how happy she is with the changes she's seeing. We're talking more, without blame or anger, than we have in a really long time. - Super excited about planning a family trip for the winter ("it's been a really long time since I've wanted to go on a trip with you")
I still have not brought up sex, but really want to at least talk about intimacy. I'm not sure I know how any more because it's been so anxiety-provoking in our R. For perspective, it's been just under a month since she last brought up wanting a D and it being "inevitable." Right now it seems not so inevitable, but I don't want to hit that third rail...
