Limerence and My Situation 4

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Mark,

You know we are on the same page here. You just happened to describe a normal uncomplicated "falling in love" situation there. We both agree there is a different sort of baggage you are carrying with you when transforming an A into a normal relationship.

The problem is once they are both feet out the door then pursuit just looks weak, pathetic and desperate to them.

Spot on AS. A female co-worker of mine was a WAW many years ago (no third party involved btw). She was very helpful to me when I was going through D, explaining what probably was going on in the mind of my XW, etc. She said the exact same thing to me when I asked how I should approach XW. She told me that her now XH was overly nice towards her and that she found it a bit "disgusting".

I once read on another forum that you should take a John Wayne kinda approach. Polite, but firm. I like that approach.