Still bad at DB

[sophene]

Hey Dale, so go ahead and make your big move. What have you got to lose besides the nonexistence of your marriage? Do what makes you happy, your wife obviously is doing what she thinks is making her happy. Being closer to supportive friends and family will help you out more. There are some people that get divorce and get remarried years later, if it's meant to be, but don't even wait around for that.

I'm in the process of getting the divorce now and the way I see it, I cannot make a person love me so sticking around and waiting for my STBXH to come back to me is a diminish of my self worth and shows my children that it's acceptable to become a doormat when the person you're married to is instantly forgiven when he goes outside the marriage.

I'm involved with a lot of marriage, infidelity, etc. sites so I can get a perspective on a lot of things. You can also put your story in the chumplady forum as well, there are many others who have been cheated on and can offer you some great advice. Although I would love to save my marriage, at this point, infidelity is a deal breaker for me, but to each their own.