That makes more sense. But don't borrow trouble from the future. he didn't do anything as far as you know, so keep up with the great opportunity.
As far as when is your W going to feel consequences? The real answer is perhaps never. I would give every DB'er the advice to take your focus right off there, because them feeling consequences doesn't impact YOUR life. It might feel good, but waiting on that or expecting it is expending energy where it doesn't belong.
It's been 9 years and I am pretty sure my ex never felt the consequence of what he has done. Actually, his life is just as he wants it. Married OW, part-time father, didn't have any more kids, never had to adjust his schedule or change his job/career, I essentially do the real raising of our daughter. He lost no friends in the process. He has time for his hobbies. With child responsibility a half a night during the week, he has been able to join his volleyball leagues, work OT....... his wife takes his abuse and he is as happy as a clam.
This used to anger me. But one day his daughter will probably see him for who he is. But unfortunately that becomes a consequence for her, rather than him.
I just do my best to focus on my side of the street. Yeah, I get really down sometimes about how this has affected my life in multiple ways. But I don't really care that he has gotten everything he has wanted and still doesn't suffer any consequences.
