Lost on how to save my marriage! 4

[Holding]

JoeJoe, I think you've still got a chance to save your M. The fact that your W is still using "if" statements is a good sign.

Is it hard to face this deadline of next summer your W mentioned? For me, I saw on my STBXW's phone that she was going to give it 4 months. So I felt a TREMENDOUS pressure to be the best I possibly could in those 4 months. I was walking on eggshells, beating myself up for every mistake, analyzing every interaction. It was he11. But you know what? I only got 3 months.

I understand how the ambiguity could slowly kill you. Not being able to envision my own future any more drove me crazy. That was honestly the hardest part, and I do wonder if it led me down the wrong path and tainted my actions.

Working on yourself is all you can really do. Try to be a better man and a good father.

There's no telling what the future holds for any of us. But how will you face it?