I actually have a read a few of the chump lady back in my wild how to save a marriage google searches back in the beginning lol
I have been moving on quite a bit. My main issue is that the logistics of my home is not good. Moved out here for the W. This her area with all her friends and family. Most of mine is a hour away. Also, my job is in a city that is closer to my hometown. If I want to make partner in the coming years I need to expand my book of business. I can network 1000% more in my hometown which is 15 minutes from work. Besides work, everything else is just a hassle as far as visiting. If I do move, that would almost certainly put the final nail in the coffin of the M.
As far as W goes, this sat will be one year gone. Have not seen any major improvements with the exception that her tone went from her life is great to now her life [censored]. So that tells me at least she knows what she did is wrong and she is regretting it. She tells me sometimes that she regularly things about life back with me and tries to figure how it will be different. So she is still playing me or she is serious. Tired of waiting either way. I'm no where close to invested in the M like 95% of you guys so I'm ready to just start over. A lot of you guys have been married for decades, my W left before a year of M.
As far as my life, I've been doing pretty good. I think what killed my M was me not reaching out and being vulnerable, asking for help, and generally just making an effort to maintain and further develop relationships. I've been reaching out to family and friends 100 times more and actually initiating contact. I even tell them I love them at the end which is unheard from me. I used to wait for others to contact me and develop friendships/family/love etc. Trying to take charge of that and really bond with people again.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
